There is an old saying that goes something like: "If you love something set it free. If it returns it was meant to be." It may seem cliche, but it is the absolute truth. But, there may be a problem with this in practice. You see, if you are letting go with the expectation that your loved one (or thing) may come back to you, then you are not truly letting go. And with that expectation comes pain and suffering. Will they come back? So, did you really "set it free" if you have that expectation?
Have you ever had the experience wherein a person asked for your help and you did the right thing and agreed to help them? Did you decide that they also wanted something else, but you knew better than them what they really needed? This is not helping, this is interfering. And when we interfere in another person's life we miss the opportunity to truly open our heart to them. You see, if you imagine that you know better what they need, internally you are saying, "I am the better judge. They do not know what is best." We are mentally casting that person below us. And from that superior attitude, you will never be able to truly know the heart of the other. This kind of thinking, once again, leads to pain and suffering.
Well then, what is love if we do not do what we feel is "best" for another? What is letting go, if we do not worry whether or not they will return? Here are some ideas you may want to contemplate about letting go of a loved one:
First, we must recognize that loving and possessing are different.
Love lasts forever and is unconditional.
Possessing can not lead to letting go and a state of inner peace.
Controlling another is not an act of love. It is an act of ego.
When we love someone we are happy for them when they are happy, not when they are doing what we imagine they should be doing.
If someone wants to be free and we let them go so that they will have what they most need or want, this is love.
Whether they come back or not is irrelevant.
Deepest Peace,
S.
Have you ever had the experience wherein a person asked for your help and you did the right thing and agreed to help them? Did you decide that they also wanted something else, but you knew better than them what they really needed? This is not helping, this is interfering. And when we interfere in another person's life we miss the opportunity to truly open our heart to them. You see, if you imagine that you know better what they need, internally you are saying, "I am the better judge. They do not know what is best." We are mentally casting that person below us. And from that superior attitude, you will never be able to truly know the heart of the other. This kind of thinking, once again, leads to pain and suffering.
Well then, what is love if we do not do what we feel is "best" for another? What is letting go, if we do not worry whether or not they will return? Here are some ideas you may want to contemplate about letting go of a loved one:
First, we must recognize that loving and possessing are different.
Love lasts forever and is unconditional.
Possessing can not lead to letting go and a state of inner peace.
Controlling another is not an act of love. It is an act of ego.
When we love someone we are happy for them when they are happy, not when they are doing what we imagine they should be doing.
If someone wants to be free and we let them go so that they will have what they most need or want, this is love.
Whether they come back or not is irrelevant.
Deepest Peace,
S.
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